Dear God... Please heal my broken heart

"The LORD is close to brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" Psalm 34:18

Lord I know that you have put me through this painful situation to help me grow. I am missing him and you know how much I love him. I know you may have someone better for me on the horizon but PLEASE, give me a sign. Please let me know if he will be coming back or that someone better is coming my way. Please God, I don't think I can take this pain much longer. So easy to tell those who really care and love me like my family that I am okay now but I'm still hurting. Sometimes I just want to be alone and cry... sometimes I want to scream so the pain inside my heart can all be released. I am so ashamed to face the people I know like my friends and officemates. I pity myself, I even pity my mother who is really so hurt also when she learned of what happened to me. I have given her so much pain already but a mother will always be there for her children. This is the very first time I have shared to my family so much about my lovelife as I thought it is for keeps already. In my downfall right now, I cannot really just handle this heartache by myself... I thank you God for my loving family. I am really sad to see how worried they are for me even my dad. He asked my mum why I am always sad and just inside my room. Lord, please take care of my family. We have our problems right now in our business and I have added an additional burden again to them. Hope we could all overcome these trials in our life. I ask you now oh God to heal my heart and my mind. I will release myself from any resentment that is holding me. I forgive the one that I am holding resentment also. I feel that I will no longer have a strength to live for the next day. I confess that I am afraid to try on new things and meet a new guy again. I confess that I am intimidated with anything new. I confess that I get envy with those in a happy relationship. Please touch my heart Lord and make it better. Please stop the pain. Please help me to get back on my feet and keep the negative thoughts out of my mind. I will continue to come to you until my broken heart is fully healed. I love you Jesus... I love you Mama Mary. Amen

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

"The LORD is close to brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" Psalm 34:18. This is a really powerful message to me because it is like saying that no matter what you did, the LORD our God will always be with us. Another bible verse I love and has meaning is "Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6. So to me even if you are really hurt or confuse about God then don't worry. Just trust in him, and everything will be alright. God understands this experience because he himself has lived through a broken heart. God has been a jilted lover. Through his love for us, he has endured unfaithfulness and desertion. God understands our loneliness and identifies with us. We can talk to him about this experience and ask him for help at our deepest point of despair – because he’s been there himself!

Heal My Broken Heart

Nancy Burr

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Lord I need some time alone

Just to spend with You.

I’m overwhelmed cause I can’t find

The strength to get me through.

I know I need to trust in You

When sadness covers me.

But I feel numb and so confused,

Please help me Lord I plea.

Each day I ask that You would please

Heal my broken heart.

But Lord it just seems to get worse

My world is torn apart.

I don’t know what I’m doing Lord

I don’t know what to say.

All I know is that I’m sad

And the pain won’t go away.

So much pain and sorrow Lord,

Makes me feel sick inside.

Out of control is how life feels

And it makes me want to hide.

But there’s no place where I can go,

Where I feel safe from harm.

So please dear Jesus let me hide

Inside Your loving arms.

When I’m inside Your loving arms

I feel safe and warm.

I feel like I can cope again.

And forget about the storm.

But I know when I leave this place

I’ll surely fall apart.

So please take all my cares and fears

And the pain that fills my heart.

Please teach me how to live my life

Where You are in control.

And show me how to trust in You

So my life can be whole.

Sometimes I just can’t see the path

That’s right in front of me.

So be my guide and help me see

I pray down on my knee.

Start Here: 15 Healing Steps
by AMELIE CHANCE

How long will it be before you can get through your daily routine without feeling the wave of pain sweep over you, without sensing that knot in the pit of your stomach, and without dwelling on what went wrong? If these are some of the questions you are asking yourself, you are not alone. 

A broken heart can cause such an intense reaction that you may feel your life has been completely stripped of meaning. Jobs, hobbies, and friends may no longer hold any joy. In fact, some of us even experience physical pain with a tight chest, nervous stomach, or terrible insomnia. “Time heals all wounds” is something we have all heard over the years, but do you really have to wait for time to heal these wounds? Absolutely not. There are steps you can take to alleviate the pain you feel. These steps were developed by people who have endured the pain of a difficult break-up and sought a better way to heal.

Whether you are 22 or 62, the first step is to determine from which type of broken heart you currently suffer. That’s right – there are actually 4 different types of broken hearts. Several factors determine the type of broken heart you may be enduring right now including your relationship history, the type of relationship and the reasons for the break-up, among others. Once you know where your heart stands, you will receive customized healing advice.

Okay, so where should you start? Start with the first healing step – the survey – to see where you stand. Get an instant, on screen evaluation. The survey contains 16-questions and can be completed in about 2 minutes. If you’re ready to see which of the 4 types of broken heart you suffer from, then let’s go.

Ready? Take the Survey

So here's the result on me from Ms. Amelie Chance, a Psychologist

Hi Maria,

As promised, here is the extended analysis of your survey results and an important healing lesson. 

You fall into a pretty high category of pain. I understand this is an extremely difficult time, but there is still hope for you to feel better – and soon. Below is a quick summary of your results followed by a custom healing lesson which will start your healing today.

1 – You are suffering from Emptiness -Your mind, body, and heart are basically saying to you, “Hey, what’s the point of any of this without him or her?” The reason it is so painful is that more than loneliness, you are feeling emptiness.

2 – You are experiencing the Reminder Syndrome - You may not be able to get your ex, the break up or the pain out of your mind for more than a few minutes at a time. There are subconscious triggers of your ex everywhere including songs, smells, objects, and much more.

3 – Negative thoughts - you can’t seem to shake them. Why did this happen (again)? I’m never going to meet anyone. The thought of dating again makes me want to vomit. Don’t worry, you are not alone and there is a simple and powerful method to combat these thoughts.

4 – Loss of a possible Soulmate - It seems that you believe that you have lost the person that was the one for you. The one you had been waiting for, the person that made you whole, the one that made you who you are and want to be. I want to tell you that even in this situation, it is possible to heal, to have hope, and to live a vibrant life again.

Ok, so what’s your next step? First, make a pact with yourself to set aside any current thoughts you have about never getting over this pain. Open your mind to the possibility that you can feel better and soon. Agreed?

Next, read mini-lesson 1 below:

Lesson 1:

The day after a break up or the year after (if you haven't found a way to heal) may seem like you are waking up to a nightmare. The space beside you in bed is vacant and that vacancy is sending you a blaring message - you are alone. It seems unbearable.

The reason it is so painful is that more than loneliness, you are feeling emptiness. Being lonely is manageable, but feeling empty is different. Emptiness can strip the meaning from everything from which you once derived enjoyment including your job, friends, family, and hobbies.

Your mind, body, and heart are basically saying to you, "Hey, what is the point of any of this without him or 

her?" Well, there is a point. When you quiet your mind and look deep within, you know this to be true - your life has meaning and though it seems impossible, these feelings will pass. 

Fortunately, you don't have to allow time to do the magic. You can relieve the pain and bring meaning back into your life by practicing some of the following tips.

The first tip to overcome the emptiness is to identify the triggers (times, places, and things) that cause you the 

most pain. Triggers can cause fits of sadness, grief, and loneliness. 

For example, common triggers are the moment you come home from work or when you get into bed at night. Once you've made the list, you need to have a pre-planned adjustment to counteract each trigger. Your adjustment for these triggers can be to go out for dinner if you normally cooked with your ex and to listen to music while falling asleep. These are just examples.

The main point is that you must make yourself aware of the recurring pain triggers and have a plan to make adjustments to these routines. This will help - a lot.

The second tip is to engage your support network. Most of us crawl into a hole and have a tendency to withdraw after a break-up. After my divorce, had I seen a crack in the earth, I would have gladly jumped in. Withdrawal is part of our flight or fight response. Choose to fight. 

Find your friends and family or co-workers and make plans with them. The last thing in the world you may want is to have company, but it is imperative that you socialize at least 2x a week - it accelerates the healing process. Try to hang out with some people who didn't know you and your ex as a couple to bring back your individuality and avoid that trigger.

To help you further, watch my powerful video on core beliefs. In 6 minutes it provides healing in a form I couldn't provide via email. It gets good at 2 minutes, but you have to watch the whole video in order to gain benefit. =>

http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/corebeliefs

See you tomorrow for Lesson 2: Flip Your Thoughts

Love & Light, 

Amelie Chance 

Certified Coach of Positive Psychology

Heal My Broken Heart

P.S. I'm a real person. I look forward to getting to know you better.

P.P.S. Healing takes action. Your homework is to spare 6 minutes right now in order to watch the core beliefs video =>

http://www.healmybrokenheart.com/corebeliefs